Do We Dare Act Like Adults?

Feeling unappreciated is quite possibly the worst feeling in the world. Feeling left out or kept in the dark about something, which could potentially be nothing, eats away at you little by little. It crawls up your spine, inching its way closer until it gnaws at your brain like a bad high school memory. When did we start caring so much what other people say or do? The only opinion that SHOULD matter is our own. But somewhere along the way we have lost the idea of being our own person. Never have I seen this more than with the people we often say we are closest with. Everyone has their own little circles and secrets, so much so, that everyone else around them anyone who might feel out of the loop becomes crazed with suspicion. Truth be told, stop freaking out! You're probably not interesting enough for your "friends" to talk about to begin with. And let’s be honest, we could make things a lot easier on ourselves if we'd stop the secrecy. If you have a secret to tell than tell someone in private do not announce to the entire group that you have something to tell Jimmy later, because… it's a secret. And please do not speak in a different language. If you and your friends are standing around talking and you start talking to Sarah in French, chances are we already know you're telling her something you didn’t want us to know. You're not being secretive you're being dumb and making your friends paranoid. This whole thing is a vicious circle that ends up in a drama filled fight full of he said, she said talk. So let us now cut some of the drama from our life and stop acting like children. In fact the children I work with are often smarter than the average teenage girl. Their lives are simple, you took her toy she calls you out on it. She does not brush in under the rug and bottle it up inside of her so that three months from now she will have all these little things that bother come out and she can then accuse you of harassment. Face your problems confront your friends and if you have something to say, please say it to me not a therapist.